ACCEPTANCE
I often think that acceptance is essential. It’s much more important than our physiological needs. Feeling accepted by others makes us feel better.
Hearing that you like a workout I designed for you or the recipes that you can find in my cookbook makes me feel great. I really care about opinions of people I respect or look up to – especially the older generation as I’m sure they are honest. When I’m appreciated I feel there’s sense in what I’m doing. Sometimes I can also feel it almost physically. For example – on camps, where your smiles give me loads of energy.
I also like to appreciate other personally. All of the people I work with along with my friends and family. I’m not a fan of flattering tough. I feel like insincere compliments make no sense. But honest appreciation isn’t that hard – sometimes you just need to see the good in someone, show some respect or smile in gratitude.
Acceptance is essential for all of us. But can all of us accept others? Show appreciation? It’s common that one person looks up to the other, is stunned by that person’s achievements, but doesn’t say it out loud. As he/she were scared that saying something nice to the other person would make tchem less attractive. This is exactly how jealousy is born. And what’s important is that the attractive person won’t even feel the jealousy, because it only affects the person that feels it. Where does it come from?
Well, the reason for that is that the jealous person has no respect for him/herself whatsoever. And doesn’t accept him/herself. Thus the message that he or she sends out into the world is: ‘I can’t do it/I’m fat/I’m ugly’ etc Even if we compliment tchem honestly, they’ll quickly disclaim it. By reacting this way they tend to put other people off.
People are gregarious animals – we function in different kinds of groups and live thanks to energy we get from others. If you don’t accept yourself – others won’t accept you either.
How do I like myself when ‘I’m fat, ugly and shy’? Who can do it if you can’t? There are no ugly people – there only are those who are neglected, scruffy… Also on the inside. Fat? Really? If you really are overweight, accept it. At least for now. You can take up the fight for the right body weight. But it will definitely be easier if you do it for someone you actually like. Not for the monster you define yourself as. Any other things you’d like to change? Living really is EASIER when you live 24/7 with someone you like and respect, don’t you think? 🙂
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