How modern mums care for themselves

It’s common knowledge that when mums are about to take care of themselves, then suddenly they have no time for it.

We can’t go on like that!

Lack of balance results in frustration, anger, grudges against innocent family members and co-workers who happen to come our way.

They are not the guilty ones – it’s our beliefs from some ancient times when the mother had to give up on herself for the sake of other people’s needs.  Luckily, modern approach is not about sacrifice and in return we get specific solutions and recipes for being happy both at home and at work.

 

Let’s get to it!

 

First of all, plan ahead.

Don’t just react to the needs of your children, partner or friend. Instead, make room in your diary for the headline “ME”.  You have the right to do so.

 

Secondly, use the help of others.

Grandmas, neighbours, friends are very often within reach and there’s no reason for you to do everything on your own. Cooperation is much better than sacrifice.

 

Thirdly, protect your mental health.

Say and show what you think and how you feel, don’t blame yourself when you have a bad day and don’t pretend to be perfect. There is no point in playing a game where you can only lose.

 

Fourthly, talk about your needs.

No one is a telepath and will not guess what you want, so just say what you expect. People like to feel useful but they don’t like to be burdened with demands they know nothing about.

 

Fifthly, get to know your emotional intelligence.

Learn how to motivate yourself, how to manage emotions and empathy and, as a result, everyone will benefit from it. Identifying your emotions and reacting to them in the right way is helpful at home and at work.

 

You should also be physically active, set your priorities and learn from your mistakes. And remember not to have too much to worry about, work your stress off  on others, or neglect friends. Then your life will become easier. Be here and now, don’t raise your voice and take a deep breath in difficult situations.

 

Looking after the world begins with yourself.