Appreciate Yourself!

How often do you ask yourself: Who do I thank for my successes? Whom do I owe everything I have and what I have achieved in my life? Don’t forget that you should be grateful to YOURSELF too! ?

 

Many of us can proudly say that it was the family that built a solid foundation for us: provided us with safety, education and development opportunities. We owe the good start, advice, suggestions and life experience to our relatives. Family also passed on to us the key values, such as love, respect for others and faith in our own strength and possibilities.

Of course not everyone is so lucky. There are people among us who had a much more difficult start, but succeeded in many ways! Choosing the right direction for oneself and being consistent in pursuing a goal in spite of adversities deserve recognition. Take note of all your achievements. Are you struggling to juggle work, household chores and child care? These are everyday small challenges that we shouldn’t ignore, especially if we had a more difficult start. Leave all the bad things behind. Try to think that all the unpleasant experiences and problems have strengthened you and haven’t stopped you.

 

Charting your own route

There comes a point in our lives when we make important decisions ourselves. Everything that we received as a child and experienced in the past is undoubtedly very helpful. We choose our own career path, partner, friends, people we surround ourselves with, and the best advisers are our thoughts and intuition. Therefore, it is worth realizing their power and controlling them properly!

 

 1. ATTRACT POSITIVE THOUGHTS. Focus on the nice things. Being optimistic about life is definitely worth it. Our state of mind is crucial for the decisions and actions we make. A positive attitude can really make a difference and give you energy to act.

 

 2. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO EVOKE POSITIVE EMOTIONS IN YOU. Family, friends and acquaintances can be great motivators for further action. Sometimes one pleasant word from a loved one is enough to make your day better ?

 

3. DON’T WORRY ABOUT NEGATIVE COMMENTS. If they are not constructive, they will not change anything in your life! Don’t waste your energy on it! Criticism expressed in the right way can help, but malicious comments without any value can only bring you down, cause unnecessary anger, sadness and shake your self-esteem (I wrote more on this topic HERE). Separate advice and suggestions from nasty comments which will always keep appearing but shouldn’t affect your motivation and actions.

 

4. SEND POSITIVE MESSAGES. So that similar ones come back to you ? If you give out everything that you would like to receive, the world will double the good and send it back to you!

 

5. BODY LANGUAGE – each emotion has its own non-verbal language, body position, facial expressions and gestures. When you change them, you send signals to the brain. The more visible the change, the better the effect, so try to show e.g.: openness – open your arms wide and smile at the other person. Maybe they will do the same …?

 

6. APPRECIATE YOURSELF. You work, train, raise children, learn, pass exams, inspire others, give your best so be proud of yourself. Look in the mirror and say it out loud: “Good job”! Every day you do something good for yourself and your loved ones. Collect these moments, remember them by looking in the mirror, make sure you notice them and know how to talk about them. Don’t say “I managed”, “I was lucky” and other manifestations of criticizing yourself when the facts clearly show that you achieved something with your own work. Of course, life will also bring some worse moments in life, failures and falls, but the most important thing is to learn from them and move on!

 

7. BE GRATEFUL, DO NOT JUDGE. I know from my own experience that people who practise gratitude have a higher self-esteem, feel better, and even enjoy better immunity! Say THANK YOU, appreciate the work of others and their help. Other people can be your support, not a threat. By showing your gratitude, you let them know that you support them, that they are important to you, and that in turn they will also develop. You will get twice as much in return. Refrain from unnecessary comments, think about how you would feel hearing such words.

 

Do you know the old saying that faith can move mountains? This is it!

I am aware that all our riches are in our minds and it is important to ensure its proper communication with the body and the energy that surrounds it. December is a good time to reflect, sum up your own achievements and plan our next activities and changes that we want to introduce. Remember to see not only the things you haven’t achieved. Focus on what you are proud of! Appreciate yourself! Be optimistic about new challenges! Try to think why you haven’t achieved all your goals for this year. What stood in your way? Has anything happened this year that was not planned and required special commitment from you? Consider these issues comprehensively!

It is worth focusing your thoughts on health, love, good luck and success. This “drives” action in the right direction. Believe good things will happen and they will! ?